Many men will appear too fast ejaculation problems,It's possible that your husband's rapid ejaculation has gotten him so down that he's withdrawing from sex. If so, that can be easily remedied. Quite often, when a man gains good ejaculatory control, he suddenly becomes much more interested in sex. And even if he doesn't, it might be nicer for both of you if he lasted longer.

Faced with involuntary ejaculation, most men try to distract themselves during intercourse, believing that by thinking about other things, they can trick themselves into lasting longer. Usually, that only makes things worse.

Now teach you seven steps to their own rule of premature ejaculation:

1.self-confidence

First of all, men should be convinced that their sexual function in normal health, and occasional premature ejaculation got just as cold as soon cured, this should not bear a grudge. Not only the men themselves to be self-confidence, the woman even more to help men to establish such self-confidence.

2. Relax

Feelings of sexual intercourse between husband and wife exchange and a way to meet. In sexual life, not to focus on the ability to produce the idea of premature ejaculation, we should relax and get a better feel your wife's warmth.

3. Suggesting

Sex withyour wife, you can suggest yourself: "I must be able to control their ejaculation time, will not prematurely discharged semen," to strengthen the idea, quietly self-suggestion, will receive good results.

4. Sedation

The man in the sexual life stage effort should be made to arouse their emotional stability, but the degree of excitement, if too excited, can be used diversionary methods, such as reciting poems, silent recitation number and so on.

5.Understanding

The woman should be sympathetic and caring attitude to comfort her husband, do not blame, ridicule and scoff at, or make the situation worse.

6.With

The woman should be patient and take the initiative to meet the man, warm and gentle physical contact, tolerance, encouraging attitude and the necessary caress, have helped to play a normal male sexual function.

7.Environment

Choose the best time and environment, such as early morning wake up after the holidays, or after midnight without any environmental interference, these environmental conditions, man can be more relaxed.

Don't tune out your body. TUNE INTO IT. You need to become more familiar with your different levels of sexual arousal. You also need to recognize how you feel as you approach your point of ejaculatory inevitability, the "point of no return." Once you recognize how you feel close to your point of no return, it's not difficult to make small sexual adjustments that allow you to remain highly aroused without ejaculating.

Sexual arousal is a four-phase process. In the Excitement Phase, breathing deepens and erection begins. In the Plateau Stage, erection becomes full and you feel highly aroused. When arousal builds to a certain point, the next phase occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation. Then during the Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal and erection subsides. The key to ejaculatory control is to extend the Plateau Phase, to maintain arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation.

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                                                                                                                                                            2010-02-09

Abstinence-only sex education can work -- if it's based on established strategies for helping young people change their attitudes about other types of risky behavior like smoking and drinking, new research shows.

African-American sixth- and seventh-graders who completed the eight-hour program, which involved a series of brief activities and games (and no lecturing), were one-third less likely to start having sex in the next two years compared to their peers who took part in a similar program that targeted health issues unrelated to sex.

"The evidence is solid, and it's new, because this has never been done before," says Dr. John B. Jemmott III of the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, who helped conduct the new study and design the intervention, along with his wife Dr. Loretta S Jemmott and their colleague Dr. Geoffrey T. Fong of the University of Waterloo in Ontario.

Despite the massive amounts of money the United States has poured into promoting abstinence-until-marriage programs, there have been only a handful of flawed studies investigating the effectiveness of such programs, the investigators note.

These federally supported programs -- initiated during the Clinton years at the behest of Congress -- follow a series of guidelines focusing on the importance of abstaining from sex until marriage, and underscoring the allegedly harmful physical and psychological effects of premarital sex and out-of-wedlock childbirth. "They're not based on an understanding of the motivation of children to have sex or to practice abstinence, and that's what this intervention was based on," John Jemmott said.

He and his colleagues designed their program using techniques proven to help adolescents avoid risky behaviors like cigarette smoking, drinking and drug use. Classes were conducted in groups of six to 12 children, with activities that included listing the pros and cons of abstinence versus the pros and cons of having sex. "This activity is in the context of a whole intervention that begins with a consideration of what are their goals and dreams for the future, where do they see themselves five years from now, where do they see themselves 10 years from now," Jemmott explained.

These and similar activities, he said, help young people realize on their own that abstinence is likely to be the better choice. Other activities included role-playing and games designed to help participants understand and resist peer pressure.

Jemmott and his team assigned 662 children to this program; an eight-hour "safer sex only" program designed to promote condom use; an eight- or 12-hour intervention combining both approaches; or a control group in which children underwent an eight-hour educational program on health issues unrelated to sex.

Among the 132 boys and girls who completed the abstinence-only program, about a third said they started having sex within the following 24 months, compared to half of the 129 control group participants. Around 20 percent of the abstinence-only group reported having sex during the past three months, compared to around 30 percent of the control group.

One criticism leveled at abstinence-until-marriage programs is that they discourage condom use and put kids at greater risk of sexually transmitted disease if they do decide to have sex, Jemmott said. But the current study found no evidence that the abstinence-only program had any effect on condom use. Students who participated in the comprehensive programs were slightly less likely than control group participants to report having multiple partners.

Getting young people to hold off on having sex can have major beneficial consequences down the road, Jemmott noted; it reduces their risk of contracting sexually transmitted disease and getting pregnant, while the older someone is when they do have sex for the first time, the more likely they will be to use contraceptives.

                                                                                                                                                    2010-02-09

A few extra pounds might help you live longer if you're past your prime but otherwise healthy, a new study finds.

"Perhaps we should tell our grandparents to get fat," chuckled geriatrician Dr. Thomas Yoshikawa, "to go ahead and eat that candy."

Although his suggestion may seem counterintuitive, Yoshikawa is only half-joking. The Journal of The American Geriatrics Society, of which he is editor-in-chief, just published a report showing that overweight elderly Australians were 13 percent less likely to die during a 10-year period than those who kept their weight within the recommended range.

Physicians routinely follow guidelines issued by the World Health Organization when they advise patients about their waistline. Because weight depends on height, they use a standard measure called body mass index (BMI), which is calculated as the weight in kilograms divided by the height in meters squared.

Healthy weight is defined as a BMI anywhere between 18.5 and 24.9 in adults, whereas 25 to 29.9 is overweight and 30+ is obese.

The new study suggests that in the elderly, these boundaries may be too narrow. While no one is questioning that extra fat poses health risks in young and middle-aged adults, it may cushion the impact of frailty and old age, Yoshikawa told Reuters Health.

"We're not advocating that people get obese," said Yoshikawa, who was not involved in the new study. But "if you are five or 10 pounds heavier, it's better than being five or 10 pounds lighter."

So far, nobody knows exactly how BMI affects lifespan in older people. Some researchers speculate that it acts as an energy reserve that can help the elderly cope with illness.

For the study, Australian researchers followed more than 9,000 men and women who were between 70 and 75 years old at the outset. The participants reported their height and weight as well as various factors related to health and lifestyle. About 33 percent of the women and 44 percent of the men were overweight.

Over 10 years, more than 2,000 of the participants died. Women who had an active life and didn't smoke were the most likely to be alive at the end of the study.

But neither health nor lifestyle could fully explain why overweight people of both sexes survived longer than their normal-weight peers, who fared no better than obese individuals. In terms of survival, the best BMI was between 26 and 27, well within the overweight range.

"We did find it surprising," Dr. Leon Flicker, the study's lead researcher, told Reuters Health in an e-mail.

The new results are consistent with earlier research showing that fat may be beneficial in old age. But Flicker, who directs the Western Australian Center for Health & Aging at the University of Western Australia, said he had not expected a decidedly protective effect.

While the findings are based on people living in the community and may not apply to sick or frail people in nursing homes, Flicker still believes physicians should bear them in mind when seeing patients.

"If somebody is over the age of 70 years, and does not have a specific problem associated with being overweight (such as diabetes mellitus or severe osteoarthritis) then there is no need to provide advice to lose weight," he said.

Other experts urge caution before changing medical recommendations. So far, they say, studies have never directly tested the effect of gaining weight in old age.

"There is no evidence to suggest that intentionally gaining weight is good," Ian Janssen, an epidemiologist at Queen's University in Canada who was not part of the new research, told Reuters Health. Factors such as high blood pressure and daily function need to be taken into account, he added.

Still, Yoshikawa noted, if you are healthy and fit once you reach 70, you probably don't have to worry about a little extra fat, because the negative health consequences usually don't kick in for several years.

                                                                                                                                                                 2010-02-09