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The confidence in itself, it is not innate. A few more of esteem of oneself, experience and cheek can allow you to affirm you more easily. Doctissimo gives you some advice to succeed in facing the other and to succeed what you undertake! Do you wish to develop your confidence in you, and finally to dare to face the world? The following advice can help you. 1). Don't escape the looks! As soon as someone looks honestly at you, you lower the eyes or divert the head. Stop escaping the look of the other! The communication doesn't pass solely by the speech! The expressions, yours as those of your interlocutor, are important. Of course, don't exaggerate and don't stare the other to all tip of fields. 2). Recycle your fear! You almost feel a fear panic in new situations. Don't spend all your energy and your thoughts to try to conceal your jumpiness. Try unlike to transform it in actions: speak, to go toward the other. 3). Create contact! Certainly, to enter into the conversation with an unknown or even with your neighbor to palliate seems you insurmountable. Tell yourselves that everybody is nervous when he must approach a third person. Exactly, force yourselves to create contact instead of trying continually to avoid it. It should reassure you and should allow you to find the best means to tie some relations. 4). Throw yourselves to water! Throw yourselves to water! Don't hesitate to discover new surroundings and to make new experiences. Gradually you will become capable to adapt you in next to no time to new contexts! 5). Don't imitate! Certainly, it can be sometimes useful to take like model someone that is always sure of him. Nevertheless, this imitation to limits. The confidence in itself appears differently according to the personalities and the style of each. You cannot copy your attitude therefore on the other. Look for your own fashion of expression. 6). I am the best! Use the Coué method! Repeat yourselves "I can arrive" there or "I am the best!" Okay, the positive thought gives some results at the very least uncertain! But it doesn't cost anything and can prove to be paying. Because sometimes a small bit of help is sufficient to pass in the camp of the winners! 7). Affirm yourselves! Certainly, to speak strong is not necessarily a sign of confidence in itself. but it helps to affirm itself/themselves. And it is certainly more efficient than to whisper with the hand before the mouth! Also look at your interlocutor in the eyes and address yourselves directly to the concerned person. 8). Don't choose any unreal objectives Your lack of confidence of it comes you of a permanent feeling of failure? Stop fixing you or to accept inaccessible objectives! One of the keys of the confidence in itself is the realism: you must know your capacities and especially your limits! Possibly, segment your objective in small intermediate stages. To succeed in passing these small stages will help you to achieve your goals, under the condition to remain in the limits of the reasonable. 9). Progress! Still to avoid these failures, you must know your mistakes! Value in a precise manner the reasons of your past, as very professional failures that private. While avoiding to reproduce former mistakes, you can only improve. 10). Practice sport! Choose a club of sport close to your home. Especially, write down yourselves in your category (beginner.) and try to face people of your level. You will see, the victories that you will win will reassure you inevitably on your capacities. Of as much as in a short time, you will be yourself surprised the progress that you achieve. 2008-12-09
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