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Love at first sight reciprocal or slow game of crowned seduction of success, you have just started a relation in love. These first shared moments are very important. They are going to decide the evolution and the length of your history. Then, how to manage these instants? The meeting in love has many faces: she can be fortuitous or logical, she can take place at the corner of the street or to the other tip of the world. However that may be, she is going to change the course of the things, to upset our daily "routine". But the "true" meeting, the one that passes the flirtation of some days, is a slow process that, to develop itself favorably, require the crossing of several stages. ..So that a meeting is possible... Contrary to the received ideas, the "love at first sight" is rather rare. But so that a simple crossing between two people takes the turn of a meeting, it is necessary that there is a "revelation": a look, a gesture, a way to be that attracts our attention and provoke an emotion. Such an event cannot occur that if the two protagonists are arranged there, ready to seize the opportunity of this opening, ready to the exchange and to the dialogue. The most often, these are not the opportunities that make defect but the availability! Without opening to the outside world, without the desire to fill what misses us, he cannot have meeting there . It is not however not sufficient, because as the writing Boris Cyrulnik: "I can only meet those that are about them of the signs beforehand written down to the bottom of me." So that the other draws your attention, he must carry in him something that resembles you or that corresponds to your waiting. Thus, the double miracle of the meeting in love, it is on the one hand to be two in the same frame of mind to the same instant; on the other hand to feel a particular affinity one for the other. So such is the case, there will be "shock in love. ..The dream in love The fate is thrown of it; another made irruption in our life, another even unknown and exalted therefore of all possible! No limit imposes itself again to our imaginary and our small interior movies can play without relaxation. We are flooded of emotions, of the beatitude to terror while passing by the jubilation, the doubt and the anguish. It is the game of the "you thought it, you also, it is incredible!"or "you are well the one, the one, that I hoped", magic moments where tip nevertheless the misunderstanding, because one doesn't know anything of the other again, finally. The risk it is to be quite blind and to project on him, without a shade of discernment, our interior world, our dreams, our waitings, our fantasies,. However, when the reality takes its rights, it jostles our interior scripts inevitably. The other is confronted to the picture that one had made itself of the ideal partner. It is the time of the mess, of the discount in reason. The disappointment can sometimes succeed to the rupture. ..The time of the mess The confrontation can prove to be disconcerting because it disturbs our daily: "how far I can let disturb my habits, my way to make and to think? How far I can accept that a whirlwind of unknown and novelty comes to destabilize me?" It is the time of all dangers: it is the opening or the dead end (or even the "clash"). All depends of our capacities to cross these turbulences there in us recovering sufficiently to welcome the other as he is and review little by little our point of view of the existence. Inevitably, the meeting in love shakes our interior fortress, and push us to the novelty, to the change. Because once past this cape, the game is often worth the candle! 2008-12-26
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