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This article is written by a Registered Nurse in response to the numerous questions which were asked on yahoo answer. From now on the author will be able to refer persons with this problem to this article. I hope it satisfies many frustrated readers. I hope some achieve their first orgasm after reading this article. I have been answering questions on yahoo answers on matters relating to sexual health. I noted that many young women wanted to know why they were not reaching orgasm. This article is in response to the many questions which are repeatedly asked on Yahoo Answers. It is my hope that publishing an article like this will be informative and will reduce the number people who have to ask such questions publicly. I was shocked to learn that one young lady had never experienced orgasm despite the fact that she was sexually active throughout her adult life. The numbers of questions relating lack of orgasms were and I chose to publish this article to make it available on the internet. Definition of OrgasmIt is an intense sensation that occurs at the climax of sexual excitement that is accompanied by rhythmic muscle contractions and intense pleasure. This is followed by the release of sexual tension. In men, orgasm is accompanied by ejaculation. Many people have never experienced and orgasm and do not know what it is. If you fall in this category you are not alone. You are in good company and have taken the first step to achieving an orgasm. I have defined orgasm above but remember it is different for each of us. Initially, there is the biological urge to have sex. During the sexual act a high is reached. This high is often referred to as climax. When climax is reached the ultimate experience occurs. There is no similar experience. It is the one time, briefly, one feels satisfied. After, orgasm the quality of sleep is very good. Essential Elements of an OrgasmSexual preferences, partners, and preferred foreplay are all part of achieving an orgasm. These preferences are very personal and if you are aiming for orgasm you and your partner need to know the preferences of each other. Orgasm will not be achieved if you do not trust your partner. The first element of achieving an orgasm is the presence of a trusting relationship. If you fear that your partner will go and tell all of his or her friends that you have small boobs etc. then you will not achieve orgasm because the element of fear will inhibit you. This element of trust is more important for females. Males tend to be quite happy with one night stands. Women tend to want to go into longer term relationships. Quick in, Quick out approach seems to work for men but not for women. For men the physical act of the penis rubbing the vagina or the palms of the hand during masturbation is usually sufficient to achieve orgasm. For females the evening dinner under candle light, silk sheets and comfortable quiet room are equally important. Individuals who want to have an orgasm must have sexually functioning parts. Men without penis cannot achieve orgasm. The same is true for females without the clitoris. Men who have had their sensitive tissues on the lower part of the glans penis excised during circumcision will find it harder to achieve orgasm. If most of the tissue is present then orgasm will be possible. Articles about circumcision can be read Many people have not achieved orgasm because they have not learned the technique. Reaching orgasm can be learned. Tools used to reach orgasm include manual and oral stimulation, use of vibrators, use of sex doll or real sexual intercourse with a species of the opposite sex. Orgasm can also be achieved by having sex with a partner of the same gender. Gay and Lesbian couples use this approach. There is nothing wrong with it but please do not tell the minister. The act of having sex is about much more than reaching orgasm. There are people with satisfying sex lives who do not experience sexual orgasm. However, it is a physical and emotional activity that can be learned. For others it can be physically and emotionally frustrating because they have never experienced orgasm. In brief, Orgasm is the natural release of sexual tension. After orgasm a sense of natural well-being and relief follows. Some researchers believe that the sense of wellbeing which follows an orgasm is related to the release of pain inhibitors. No pain inhibitor increases have yet been found. For the time being let us assume that we feel good after sexual orgasm. Many women do not achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse. I hope this does not come as a shock to readers. This occurs because the location of the clitoris is not conducive to orgasm during the sexual act. It is for this reason that each couple must be in a trusting relationship. When a female does not reach orgasm she should be comfortable telling her partner to stimulate her manually. Manual stimulation can be done either during or prior to the sexual act. It can also be done after sexual intercourse when the male has reached orgasm. Last but not least you can stimulate yourself manually during intercourse. Other alternatives to the sexual act include lovemaking to toys, oral sex, manual stimulation and use of vibrators. Some people are not able to achieve orgasm because of the lack of sex hormones and related medical problems. Hence, the first step is to have a physical evaluation to make sure that there is no medical problem. Low hormone levels and poor blood circulation to the sexual organs predispose individuals to fail in reaching an orgasm. Some women experience a lack of natural lubrication. If this happens there is nothing to worry about. Many different types of lubricants are available. Lack of lubrication can make sexual experience painful. One theory states that women fail to reach orgasm because there is insufficient blood reaching the clitoris. Again, this is only a theory. Men who have reduced circulation to their penis will have problems with his erection. Reduced blood supply to the clitoris can prevent it from becoming properly engorged. If the clitoris does not become engorged it cannot bring about orgasm as we know it. Reduced circulation to the female clitoris may be caused by certain medical conditions, medications or surgeries. Some patients will benefit from prolonged stimulation or more intense stimulation. Others do not benefit from these interventions. Some researchers are experimenting with topical and oral medications to enhance blood flow to the vagina and clitoris. Additionally, there is an FDA approved vacuum device that can help with this by increasing the blood flow. Physical exercises have been shown to improve blood flow to the clitoris in some women. So having sex after exercising increases lubrication, increases arousal time and brings about orgasm sooner. Exercising has other cardiovascular benefits too. Some medications increase arousal time. However, many medications are sedating and reduce blood flow to sex organs. Consequently, if you are on medications you may experience depressed desire for sex. Many anti-depressants significantly reduce a woman's ability to reach orgasm. 2011-04-21
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