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The couples who often argue or that are on the contrary too distant would have big odds to divorce. The risks would be maximum at the time of two periods: before the seventh year and after the fourteenth. Are you in love? Did you decide to get married even? Yet, you certainly know the couples for whom the union was a failure. How to know if your marriage is going to function? ..Conflicts and silences, reasons of divorce An American survey, appeared in the American magazine Newspaper of Marriage and the Family is going maybe to help you. This survey followed 80 couples, gotten married since 5 years, on a length of fourteen years. At the end of four years, 7 couples had divorced. After 10 supplementary years, 13 were not besides more wholes. Two profiles of couples to risk would have been determined thus: the couples who often argue and those that on the contrary has very cold relations. In the two cases it is not of course, really a surprise! The too cold or on the contrary too contradictory couples don't seem makes indeed to get along! ..Two periods to risk This survey also identified two periods to risk. The first concerns the first seven years of marriage during which the probabilities of divorce would be raised. The second period of fragility would be located at the surroundings of 14 years of marriage. According to the psychologists, it explains itself by the more and more big autonomy of the children, that lets to the parents of the time to think about their relation and to make the balance of their marriage. One of the surprises of the survey is to have found a tie between the two profiles to risk and the two periods of fragility. Thus, the couples who too often argue would be those that divorce in the first years of marriage and the too distant couples would be more vulnerable after 14 years of common life. ..A marriage out of three ends by a divorce Let's hope that the knowledge of these periods of fragility will be able to allow some couples to save their marriage. According to the national institute of the demographic studies (INED), about 35% of the marriages balance themselves by a divorce. In 1998, 116 000 divorces have been pronounced. The number of unions before the mayor, him, straightens itself slightly, with 280 000 marriages in 1999. On the whole of the union European, the proportion is of three marriages for a divorce, against fifteen for a forty years ago.
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