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 Are the men and the women equal in the assessment that they make themselves? Facing the diktats of the appearance, to the cannons of the fashion, how make the two sexes to keep a picture positive of oneself?  At the hour of the parity and the equality of the sexes, the men and the women face them the same problems in the acceptance of their body? Nothing is less sure.  ..The women facing the fashionSince her youngest age, the small girl is submitted to the conventions of the coquetry in order to seduce: that it is by a favorite in hair, by a new dress or princess's disguise, the little girl teaches to value themselves and to get in value. To the puberty, whereas the girl doesn't master her physical transformation, she compares herself to an ideal picture of the body, transported by the magazines and the television,: the suffering of the confrontation can be to this point assaults that it sometimes drags anorexic unrests.  Few women, yet, answer the ideal criterias of the fashion, that, besides, constantly evolve: of gironde to the 18th century, the ideal woman became skinny to the 20th century, to round again. To the 19th century, it was required to protect themselves from the sun to keep the white skin; today, one searches for the maximum tan! Thus, the feminine look on the body is always referenced to a picture imposed by the society.
 ..The men facing the aesthetic requirementsThe male, him, is not compelled to the same duty to please: traditionally, it is he that chooses his "beautiful". It is in the action that one recognizes his qualities and no in a static picture. It is thus - one perceives some if one studies the physical of the politicians - that the masculine appearance is often disregarded, out it dress-tie. The woman's aspect, on the contrary, lend to commentaries that don't have anything to see with his professional qualities. The masculine norm, if she doesn't especially aim "to appear" imposes it of other severe laws: not to cry, not to show his fear, to be sporty, to have the taste of the adventure, and, why not, to be macho.  ..Dictatorship of the picture From then on how to imagine that there is equality between men and women in their assessment of themselves? The complex feminine are born of unsuitability between the picture of oneself and an ideal and inaccessible picture: if the food régimes are more the fact of the women, it is that to all corners of streets, he is reminded them that to seduce, they must get thinner. The woman, if she eats too much, feels unhappy, anguished, because she knows that she damages her picture and transgress a forbidden. The man, on the contrary, taxed of good living, if he has a good fork, himself complex not of the kilograms in too much that give him a social foundation even. But if he is contemplative rather than active, he will feel stray in the society and will be able to himself in complexer. A teenager who is not interested in the soccer, that "doesn't sweep" the girls, who fear to dive in the swimming pool, expose himself to the jokings of his friends. In not being in phase with the picture agreed by the society, the boy believes to lose his masculine credibility. Finally, except to assume his "weaknesses", he focuses over.  ..Complex of men, complex of women?So therefore the complex hit the men and the women differently, they are just as handicapping. To surmount them, each must learn to live with what he is, even though he doesn't look like the identikit picture drawn by those that make the fashion. To be complexé, it fear to be noticed because of his shortcomings. But it of shortcomings or differences is about? To impose his difference frees the complex. Let's not forget that it is the diversity of the individuals that makes the wealth of a society!                                                                                                                    2008-12-11
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