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If it is easy to speak in general of sex, it is not necessarily easy to speak of his. especially when it drops you. To dare to tell a physician that one endures unrest of the raising, it is necessary to overcome numerous difficulties often. What are they, and how can one get round them? Two to three millions men endure erectile unrests and only 10% would be treated. Fear of the ridicule, ignorances, myths, or personal beliefs, the obstacles to clear are numerous before passing the door of the medical cabinet. And once the past door, one often waits hopelessly that the physician approaches the topic in first. The stereotype of the efficient and effective manA trouble of the raising, in addition to disrupt the sexuality, often has a reverberation on the whole quality of life. Feeling of failure, of shame. who succeeds to a fold on oneself, first gate to the consultation. The man feels depreciated, decreased, and doesn't have the feeling anymore to be a man. It is "impotent." Because for the western, the power, it is the raising. And even though the term of impotence is replaced today by the one of erectile dysfunction, the cultural representations are very strong, very anchored when it is about masculine sexuality. Yet, in other cultures, the notion of power is rather bound to the ejaculation Is this "then, indeed the raising that makes the virility?"interrogate the Dr Catherine Hurel, sex therapist. The man, in situation of suffering, can also fear his physician's reaction, to fear that this one doesn't take it seriously, doesn't recognize his concern, and that he answers to him that "it is fatigue, that is going to pass" or that "it is in the head." He can also be afraid not to find the words. Besides, the problems of raising are often evoked at the end of consultation, on the step of the door, with already made sentences,: "I am not anymore a man", "my wife thinks that I don't like it anymore", "I have a small problem" (that is a very big actually rather of it.). "A lot of patients speak of "decrease of shape", it can be a good way to approach the topic" counsels the Dr Nathalie Dudoret, sex therapist comportementaliste.  Of the taboo topics and a repercussion on the relation of couple
If one is embarrassed to speak of sexuality, it is also because she means to speak of pleasure, of intimacy,: of the topics often taboo. Besides, "when one speaks of erectile dysfunction, one enters in the relational intimacy, add the Dr Hurel. The big majority of these unrests has a reverberation on the relation with the partner." The companion, preoccupied by the problem, doesn't feel more desirable, think that her husband doesn't like it anymore, that he has a mistress. "The distinction between sexual relation and relation in love is often difficult to make. And yet, he can have a very strong emotional tie, of the desire, there but for as much, not of raising." Is it then, better to consult alone, or in couple? It depends the reasons, people and the couples. Myths and beliefs around the sexualityThe difficulty to speak of unrests of the raising is also bound to myths, to beliefs. One believes as well as "the sexuality stops with age" and that one is not able to anything there to make. It is not therefore the pain to speak of it, since one has only to accept it. Forgery! The sexuality doesn't necessarily stop and some medicines exist. Of the disparaged besides often medicines, because a lot of negative ideas have been transported.
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