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The shyness is a benign trouble that many learn to surmount naturally. But when she ends up poisoning us life, that she provokes some sufferings on the physical and emotional plan, the shyness becomes a problem of health that it is necessary to take care of, before it leads to the isolation or the depression. Each, in her life, must face particularly intimidating situations (to take an exam, to take the floor in public, to enter into the conversation with unknowns.). Generally, the time and the experience end up making disappear this hindrance. But when she becomes chronic and generalized, the shyness is more difficult to manage. ..The faraway origins of the shyness He exists, probably, as many shyness as shy exist. It is necessary to go back to the childhood to find the source of it well often. A child who grew in a too protected domestic context, felt suppressed or excluded in an adult environment, or a child in lack of affection or understanding, that underwent domestic conflicts. In short, a weakened emotionally individual will be more especially minded to endure the shyness during her life. Of course, school failure or inopportune moves don't arrange in anything the things. ..Of the various and bothersome demonstrations Generally, the shyness results in an apprehensive attitude, an excessive hindrance and a lack of insurance in the behavior facing others. But she can also hide behind an aggressive behavior that simply denotes an absence of confidence in itself. her demonstrations are at a time physiological and psychological. An excessive perspiration, a sensation of suffocation, of the redness or, on the contrary, a paleness of the face, a stammering, a change of the voice that becomes inaudible or unintelligible,; a muscular stiffness that entails clumsy gestures, some tremors are the physiological demonstrations the more met at the shy. On the psychological plan, the shy feels overcome, incapable of the least reaction, focused on the object of her fear,: others. He doesn't manage to consider the relation otherwise with the other that under the dominated dominant report. He escapes contact, lose value. In the extreme cases, he imagines that one "wants him the pain" to him that doesn't ask for anything to anyone and don't interest anybody. ..The treatment of the shyness The essential treatment of the shyness is probably the one of the therapy comportementale that helps the shy to track down complex, moral injuries and frustrations. Adapted to all ages, this very efficient therapy permits to face the dreaded situations progressively. She takes place in an interactive report with the therapist. The accent is put on the present reasons of the behavior that pose problem, rather than on the unconscious reasons. Of the point of medicinal view, specific treatment doesn't exist to fight against the shyness, even though some contribute to attenuate the demonstrations of the shyness punctually. Efficient, the practice of a sporty activity appears a means of integration to a group, exchanges and conviviality, that permits to fight against the isolation. At the child, the behavior of the parents is important. They must encourage and must stimulate their child as soon as he loses a little confidence in him, in the school life or in the relational life. ..To put an understanding look on oneself The shyness is not necessarily a brake to a personality's expression. Many comedians, singers or public personalities proved it while appearing on stage to surmount a shyness that anguished them better. Certainly, to speak, to express themselves nor without restraint complex, it take the risk to be put back in question, disapproven of, to appear as one is, with her weaknesses. But it exchange also and become richer to the contact of the other: to be recognized like a fully-fledged personality.
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