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Does the charming Prince have the nose of Pinocchio? If it is terrifying to see themselves of it, know that you can act. Trompé(e), berné(e), roulé(e): you discovered your spouse's lies. Of the most insignificant avatars to the biggest (adventures, debts, alcoholism, passion of the game, hidden children,.), it is necessary for you to adopt the good attitude so that he stops making take you of the bladders for lanterns. ..Small lies by omission He lies for trifles: does he forget to tell you that he took a glass with his Jacques buddy or that he passed at his mother, does he tell you that he made himself steal the sweater that you offered to him (whereas he lost it)? What to do? Throw yourselves into question: would you be so jealous and so suspicious that your spouse prefers to lie that to attract your thunderbolts? It arrives, and if it is the case, you should make a true psychological work (possibly with a therapist) to heal you. He is indeed difficult for your spouse to live with you if you spy on it, don't trust him or don't let him the least parcel of liberty. While lying you (often by omission), your spouse only tries to simplify themselves life! ..Pathological liar He deceives you on essential topics (he is not free, he drinks, he is sifted of debts.), himself enferre in his stupidities, promises to change, restart, makes the astonished, deny. in short, it is a pathological liar. What to do? Be realistic: you don't have anything to see in his attitude, he is merely "sick." Certainly, you must put it facing his lies, and you are in right to require him repair and forgiveness. But he risks to relapse on the first occasion (or to seem to take themselves of it before diving again). You won't be able to heal it of his lies to repetition if he doesn't wish, sincerely, to take themselves himself of it. You even risk to become his involuntary accomplice, and to return you little by little the more and more impossible and difficult life! ..Put your conditions You need therefore, to you, to warn it of what you know, to define your doorstep of tolerance, and to put the strict and firm conditions to the pursuit of your relation. It will be necessary for you to leave on new bases, to give back him a luck and to take the time to see. Don't let wheedle you by hiss tearful forgiveness (I made to you if pain, I like you so.) nor by his promises. Does he deny, even before the proof of his lie? For him don't the respect and the exemption have their place so, in your couple, can be would have to you to separate some time to make the point and to take a decision? The fear to lose will push it to you maybe to change indeed. In any case, propose him to consult a shrink, to undertake a true therapy, to understand the deep reasons of his lies and to come out of this situation.
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