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Little by little, the idea made its path. And today, it is decided: you want a child. This passage is a major stage in a woman's life. And it is going to be for you a marvelous adventure... for which it will be necessary to be prepared well. You often evoked it on the tone of the joke, then the humor yielded the place to the desire, this time it is decided, you are going to make a baby! ..The history of life Around you, your friends spoke of it to you, you threw yourselves on score of magazines, you devoured some books, pass of the hours and hours on the forums of discussion "envies child "... You have beautiful knowledge that the feminine body is made for it, that since the humanity exists more 60 billions of children are born... you always have a small apprehension facing this big unknown, this distress. Whatever is what the other could feel, this adventure is personal, and your lived will be unique. Your pregnancy won't look like the one of your best friend or the one of your mother. Your pregnancy, it will be your history, nine unique months, nine rare months in one life. ..To become adult To have a child represents an important stage in any case in your history: you pass woman's statute to the one of mother. For the pédopsychiatre Marcel Rufo, "it is the real passage to the adult age." One accepts of more being oneself a child, to transmit his values to a new being. And it changes things a lot around oneself: the relations with his own parents of course, but in a more general manner the look on the world. One becomes as adult because one acquires new responsibilities. And what responsibilities! A new being that will be necessary to make discover the world that surrounds it and to that it will be necessary to give the keys to advance in life. ..To understand his desire Numerous reasons exist to want to be in surrounding wall: to feel woman, to expose his femininity, "to prove" that his body functions... For Marcel Rufo, "if the desire of pregnancy and child's desire sometimes confound themselves, child's desire has another sense. It is the history of a couple, of a family who constructs itself. It is the history of a love, the realization of his relation with his spouse. Child's desire represents the hope to continue in the time and to show to all that every member of the couple came definitely out of the childhood since it is capable to equal his parents." If it is important to know what motivates child's desire, it is as sometimes necessary to know how to listen to his body, as one listens to his feelings. Simply. Except if some insurmountable obstacles exist, don't hesitate when you feel that it is the good moment! ..Be ready If it is not necessary to wait, it is necessary to know how to get ready also for this big adventure. Consultations and exams, good food habits and hygiene of life... as soon as you have the project to make a baby, put all odds on your side, so that no cloud comes to waste this unique adventure. To give all assets to your future child... and to the next one! 2008-12-08
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