Sexuality of the post partum

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When to take the sexual intercourse after a baby's birth? Of the forbidden religious or medical demarcated this domain once: it was necessary or was not necessary to take the sexuality before so many weeks or months. Currently each couple is let alone facing this question.

In the days and weeks that follow the birth, the attention of the young mom is centered on its baby. His conjoined guard of course a very important place but often more to father's title that of lover.

Not to hurl down the things

The sexuality in a couple cannot be an obligation, the erotic activity lives itself in the détente, the sharing and the game. A man (or a woman) can live without sexual intercourse, he won't fall sick, even though of course he lives an important frustration. This frustration is accepted more or less easily according to people. If the sexual tension is too strong the masturbation can be a solution until the sexual desire is on all sides present. The couple can also take the time of tenderness exchange, of caresses, of massages, without succeeding as it had the habit of it before the birth to the sexual intercourse. These physical closeness allow the couple to feel near and will encourage the resumption of a complete sexuality when the woman will feel herself physically of it ready and psychically.

Of course the sexuality can take as soon as the couple wants it

The episiotomie heals in 5 days, some care is sometimes necessary during 10-15 days but passes this delay all must be go back in the order;
It is not necessary to forget the contraception, a new pregnancy is possible before the return of layer (first rules that occur after the childbirth). If the woman nurses the fertility is least but a pregnancy is as possible;
If the woman nurses, at the time of the sexual excitation or the orgasm, a broadcast of milk can occur. A feeding a few times before the sexual meeting will avoid this problem. In this case the lubrication is also sometimes less intense and longer to occur, use by the couple of a lubricant frost permits to improve the comfort then;
The vagina even though he has been distended during the childbirth, takes his shape and his springiness quickly. The rehabilitation périnéale will reinforce the musculature around the vagina.

What tells us statistics

On two the sexual intercourse take to the man's demand once solely;
20% of the couples took a sexual activity one month after the birth;
The sexuality takes for the majority of the couples seven weeks after the childbirth.

What the most often motivates the non resumption of the sexual intercourse

Fatigue is an important element. The sexuality cannot bloom that when the vital needs are appeased. The need of sleep will take the place of the sexual desire if fatigue is major. The baby's wakenings her overnight, the lack of help in the daily tasks encourages fatigue and the sexual desire lack;
The pains of the zone périnéale bound to the skinning of the épisiotomie if she was necessary. The woman sometimes has need to watch, to touch this region to verify that nothing makes badly. If this place remained painful, it is necessary to consult a physician. Some positions that solicit less this zone can be counseled: the woman is on her partner, the man and the woman are side by side;
When the child sleeps in the room of the parents, the fear to wake up can be it a hindrance to the resumption of a blooming sexual activity;
The social and domestic statute change especially at the time of the birth of a first child. This important change can disrupt one or the other of the spouses. The couple of lovers became parental couple. How does the sexuality live itself it in this new couple, in this new domestic life?
The hold of weight is frequent after a pregnancy. Sometimes the woman rejects this new body, doesn't feel desirable and refuse the sexual pleasure. It is probably necessary in this case to put an adapted nutritional régime in place that will permit to lose the superfluous kilograms. But while waiting for the loss of weight, why go without from sexual sensations? The sexual pleasure is not reserved that to the youngsters "slender and beautiful" people!

The hold of weight is frequent after has pregnancy. Sometimes the woman rejects this new leotard, doesn't feel desirable and refuses the sexual pleasure. It is probably necessary in this places to was able to year adapted nutritional régime in places that will permitted to lose the superfluous kilograms. Goal while waiting heart the loss of weight, why go without from sexual sensations? The sexual pleasure is not reserved that to the youngsters "slender and beautiful" people!

2009-09-15